Parenting Case Study #1: Give a Child Choices | Confessions of a Stay-At-Home Mom

July 6, 2011

Parenting Case Study #1: Give a Child Choices

Parenting Tidbit #1: {Give Your Child Choices

When communicating with your child, commanding something of them (ie: "Put on your pajamas!") makes a child feel out of control, which causes them to respond by resisting and acting out.  Instead, when you give your child choices (ie: "Would you like to wear the pink pajamas or the yellow pajamas?"), they feel empowered and included, resulting in less arguments and tantrums.

Case Study Example:

Me: Ok, Little Chica.  We're out of diapers! (sidenote: this may or may not have been a lie, but we're kind of desperate to get Little Chica to start using the potty). So, you can choose between this Pull-Up Diaper or these lovely Hello Kitty Panties!

Little Chica: I want a diaper.

Me: (cheery and enthusiastically) Oops!  We're all out!  Your only options are the Pull-Up or Panties.  Which one would you like to wear?

Little Chica: Diaper.

Me:  Oh sorry!  No can do!  Want to try the Pull-Up? Maybe the panties?

Little Chica: Do I get a lollipop?

Me: Well, no. Lollipops are reserved for when you put pee-pee's in the potty.  Do you want to pee-pee in the potty?

Little Chica: Nope.

Me: No problem!  So your choice: panties or Pull-Ups?

Little Chica: Neither.


What child opts for NEITHER?

Well played, Little Chica. Well played.

1 comment :

  1. Maddalena opts for neither on a pretty regular basis. She walked around for 5 1/2 hours yesterday buck naked, but refused to pee on the potty. Little stinker held it the entire time. She finally took a nap and I put a diaper on her. It was like a swimmy diaper when she woke up.
    Mommy=0 Maddalena=1


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